I know this is probably inspired by the impending lockdown that’s coming but rather than have it disappear into the quagmire of armchair experts, I’m putting it out here in general terms.
In my life, I’ve had a tone of adversity, from an expensive, emotional divorce ( I came home and my house was stripped clean, wife, kids and money all gone), to multiple surgeries and an inability to walk. Money troubles, relationship troubles, work stress and a host of others that many here will relate to.
Most of these have dealt whilst living 12,000 miles from any family support or physical network. You are own your own when you emigrate to the other side of the world. No comfy EU, 2 hrs flight to go home, you’ve cut that apron string to a very large degree.
Now, given everything life has thrown at me, especially spine wise, and the above mention situation, I tend to deal with things pretty well when adversity strikes. I did have a wobble about being unemployable earlier this year and was buoyed by many a supportive comment here, thank you all.
But all the time I hear phrases like ‘oh I could never live far from my parents, who would babysit’? or ‘ I never look at my car, I take it to my Dad’. And a host of others, you know what I’m getting at.
It seems like we are losing the ability to deal with any kind of adversity at all? I see posts from people saying they can’t ‘deal’ with situations which would have me just shrugging my shoulders and getting on with life.
We seem so ill equipped to roll with the punches these days?
I should add. I’m not talking about being all ‘John Wayne’ and not showing any kind on of emotion or empathy. I’m talking about being completely incapable of rolling some sleeves up.