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The failure bit is not being able to do my job any more and not not knowing why
Retiring at 55 after being part time for the last decade is probably better than most I’m guessing.
If I’d have retired at 30 I’d be dead now, your not the first person to say you’ve obviously had enough, been given lots of advice in the last month… some on here and I appreciate it, the best one for me was.
“Think about what you don’t want to do anymore”
That probably nails it for me, I’d have to adjust my lifestyle, in theory i have enough to live on now possibly a no pressure stacking shelves 20 hour per week job ?!
It’s a big point in your life, and I don’t know how you can work with people like that tbh.
Things like this take a long time to build up and get over. As Geordie has said, try and take the leave and not berate yourself for what happened. Then you might be able to hold out for the last 6-8 months.
Or failing that see if there’s anything else that could keep you occupied and top up your income for a year or two.
change of lifestyle? talking to a bloke last week who was running an eco-campsite with a focus on kids activities. He’d been a marketing director for an international £200m company but got fed up of the corporate bollocks and company owners not listening. Took a big step sideways and now loving life again.
I retired at 48, as you know I was kinda forced to. Financially I had no problems doing that but it didn’t feel good to be in that position with no future plans. My wife didn’t want to retire even though she’s a few years older so that ruled out extensive travel for the time being. I ended up taking about a year off while figuring things out. I’m now doing what I do now but pretty much just work during the summer and days/hours to suit me. It covers the bills and once the house refurb is finished will give us the winter months to go and travel.
While it wasn’t my plan A, it’s actually working out pretty well and I’m wondering why it wasn’t plan A before. Good luck, hope you end up in a similar place.
I count myself fortunate that I generally enjoy the work that I do, but not enough to want to do it longer than I have to. When I can afford to maintain the lifestyle I want to live without having to work, I’m out.
I think for most of us on here, our hobbies and interests are best served by us being fit and healthy, so the earlier we can retire, the better. I’m looking forward to being able to live somewhere where I can ride my bike every day if I want to. Retiring at 55 should give me lots of years of that. Retiring at 67/68 would inevitably mean less of that before my health started to restrict things.
My boss is a mate
And a real good guy I’ll get paid for another 4/5 months but then it’s yes or no.
Who knows I might feel better in a few months time, all overtime is voluntary, well paid and mostly money for nowt ( bedwatches in a hospital while the prisoner is asleep listening to music … I’ll miss that bit !)
I think most people have moments like that - mostly I think it’s about not wanting to rather than not being able to
I know someone who’s been ducking and diving on scraps of work for years. I found out this week he’s currently being paid to take a train south to pick up cars from auctions around London and drive them to dealerships in the north (I believe it’s mainly high spec cars that don’t meet London emissions standards, whatever they are) … that sounds like fairly easy work where listening to music would be a clear benefit.
Really I’m just saying that there’s work like that out there that’s better than stacking shelves
I think your post condenses most of the advice I’ve been given recently.
Work are genuinely very caring about there staff and understand how stressful the job can be.
I work at a paticulary chaotic establishment but that’s just the nature of our residents, I’m going to talk to some good friends, dad and son next weekend, clever people some of them but ultimately it’s going to be my call.
My little situation is yet another example of how friendly, caring and basically helpful this site can be at times.
In a world we’re social media can be viewed as quite toxic Tri talk has always been my favourite website
Ive mentioned before MarkieR was a PO. Worked at Frankland iirc, proper cat A in the North East anyway. He was a nice guy in real life (as others can attest) but i wonder how much his job led to an online persona he created as a release from his day to day stresses. I dont think many could comprehend the job
Pretty sure Frankland has some naughty visitors! I know a few people IRL that have done different jobs inside and it certainly sounds challenging, let’s say.
See I never knew he was in the job when he was on here and my picture a HMPS tri suit on it, maybe that’s why he used to dig me out and we never got on?! Strange.
Several of my colleagues are borderline alcoholics some of them are managers, the stress for some ranks must be mind blowing.
Jesus I was searched for knows how many times in and out, never mind the con.
There reception was quite intimidating and staff everywere !
There ratios are higher but they do look after some seriously dangerous people, they kick off less than ours but when they do it’s usually serious.
